The Immaculate Conception: Principles of Marriage

Retain Therapy in it’s purest innocence, welcomes a wellness of spirit over the body. It’s good to have, at some point, developed a chaste demeanor. Regardless of your standing with any decisions we make in life, these virtues developed under retention are able maintain your good grounding in the faith. These things eventually reflect itself most often as a peace of mind, or even clarity to the wounded heart. This especially pertains to those of us who find ourselves recovering from bad relationships. That taking a step back to consider the situation from a more abstained sobriety has a way of revealing new perspectives or clarity over the matter.

You ever loved someone so much that you tried to understand them while they were hurting you? I've been both the victimizer & a re-occurring victim of this very thing. It's completely acceptable & even necessary that we admit & acknowledge the pain that comes with trying to manage our way through these kind of situations. Often times we underestimate the stronghold of our own mental/emotional traumas & how these things can literally consume us if we allow it. This is a potential crisis thats constantly being overlooked.

A REFLECTION OF UNION:

The principles of marriage, like retain therapy, were set with the intention of maintaining sacred union, In the ancient world, people weren’t just getting divorced over petty disagreements. The union of marriage was a thing to be taken very seriously. So much so, that these principles were written as law for the people to uphold in tradition, so as to maintain the people in good standing with the Divine.

They say unto him, why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, & put her away?

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. - Matthew 19:7-8

I don’t advocate retention with the intention of subjecting anyone to grievous relations, nor do I encourage trauma bonds. Retain therapy is a core value of the faith, giving clarity to the student, that no matter their situation, they may be able to maintain the straight & narrow. Whereby we find grace in a path of least resistance.

My own life experiences are a witness to these things very vividly. That what I found, & what others may find with retain therapy, is to be somewhat of a therapeutic season. A recovery process filled with unpredictable transformative results that we develop along the way. These are things that become a testimony for others who may find themselves on a similar path or journey.

However, even within the most principled marriage, the union itself, being subjective, is only half the journey. There will come a time in every marriage when TRUE Love must be proven of that union as an objective. This isn’t something you will learn according to law, but rather a discerning heart thru sincerity of spirit. That TRUE Love is sincerity, & the law will both prove & illuminate this thing to be true.

To get a greater perspective of what this “illumination of the law” looks like, let us dive into the law of Moshe.

The Law on Sexual Morality:

If any man take a wife, & go in unto her, & hate her,

& give occasions of speech against her, & bring up an evil name upon her, & say, I took this woman, & when I came to her, I found her not a maid:

Then shall the father of the damsel, & her mother, take & bring forth the tokens of the damsel’s virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate:

& the damsel’s father shall say unto the elders, I gave my daughter unto this man to wife, & he hateth her;

&, lo, he hath given occasion of speech against her, saying, I found not thy daughter a maid: & yet these are the tokens of my daughters virginity. & they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city. -Deuteronomy 22:13-17

& the elders of the city shall take that man & chastise him;

Then shall amerce him in an hundred shekels of silver, & give them unto the father of the damsel, because he hath brought up an evil name upon a virgin of Israel: & she shall be his wife; He may not put her away all his days. -Deuteronomy 22:18-19

But if this thing be True, & the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel:

Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father’s house, & the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die: because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father’s house: so shalt thou put evil away from among you. -Deuteronomy 22:20-21

If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, & the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22

To Be Continued…